Change of plans!

Today have been one of them up and down days!
I slept until 6 !  But I didn't go to bed until like 8 in the morning.. Halil was a sweety and didn't wake me up for once, not until he had decided to cook dinner and asked if I were hungry, which I definitely was!  So he made Menemen (which also I know how to make now.. not that its so hard but still)... I stayed home to watch CSI, I take any chance I get to watch it without us arguing about who is gonna use the computer.. But hey, it is not my fault that he broke his own:)


He came home, and we decided to play some rounds of 52, a card came he taught me the day before yesterday... He has bragged about how no one ever beats him and he is so good +++... Well, let's just say that he is a sore looser. I won and I won and I won, then he said that it was because we just played for fun, that if we had some winnings he would beat me easily. So I said I wanted half hour massage, and he wanted a hairdresser appointment (which cost like 5 lira).. So we played, he won first round (it's first to 151 points), I won second, and in the middle of the third it was easy to see who was gonna win the whole thing (me) so he threw his cards at me, said he never wanted to play with me again, and he left!!!! :P   


I could certainly have gotten angry about that but it was just so funny. I wonder if there exists worse losers in this world than in this country, no one here accepts defeat :P


Anyway, some hours passed and we got in an argument. He just turned his back at me and I said "I will go to the market, is it a problem for you??"  (Time was about 12-00:30) He said no, only cause he was angry. He always says no when he is angry but I never go and he knows that.. Normally he always says I cannot go alone here in this time, and I always throw a fight over it cause I am not a child.. I say everytime that I am always going alone in Arendal and Alanya, his answer is always that "This is not arendal or alanya.. its too dangerous". I always believed that he just tried to be bossy but from this day I can surely say I believe otherwise.


Well:  I left, he was in the bedroom, OF COURSE he thought I would not go anywhere, cause I never do, I just say I will... But I went cause it was not so late as 03:00, like it normally is when I say like that.  I went to a market about 10--15 minutes in walking from here, bought a cola light and headed back home. After I had walked like 6-7 minutes this guy with motorbike stopped and asked if I needed help.. I didn't answer, then he drove after me and asked again, so I said "No thanks I am fine".. he drove away, but then he came back and drove after me. He drove off, and parked his motorbike and went over to the sidewalk, on the side I went to, and like "hid" in the dark under a tree, so of course I crossed the way. Then he walked towards me and says the most clever thing in the world; You wanna sex?
I said fuck off, and I started walking faster. And he walked to, but then he got on his motorbike and drove after me AGAIN, and I ran as fast as I possibly could, and by the time I had reached our apartment, Halil was on his way out to look for me, so the idiot drove away when he saw that.. Halil was angry!  Not at me but..


So now I can understand why he is telling me to not go alone. He says it is different in the summer cause then everything is open and there is people everywhere. I have always been clear with him that there will be NO difference between me and him in our relationship due to gender, but I guess I have to throw in the towel and accept that women does not walk alone in the middle of the night in the winter. Not that I even want to after this! 
If this was alanya I would not have ran.. I am not scared of anything there. Actually I have never been. But here, I am. 


So to my change of plans... 
I, or WE, have decided on something... We are getting married in May, my travels insurance ends 31 May, and I have enough money to show for Ikamet until May without having to think about being married and extending it to stay until November.
We have talked alot about this, and we decided that I am going home after we get married, we apply for holiday visa for him while we have enough money for it, and if we get no, I am going back. If we get yes, we are going back together after the summer. It's worth it, anyway. 


Can anyone tell me exactly WHAT I need for holiday visa? What papers here, where to deliver them and the price?